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Robin Williams was hard not to like. But somehow, he ended up not liking himself or his life very much.

There have been plenty of pieces for people to purposely put that puzzle together. Financial stress, over-the-hill stuff and Parkinson’s could make anyone blow a line and turn from a comic hero into a tragic one. Is it really all that simple?

I know there are some folks that seem to make it into their eighties and nineties and leave nothing behind but good things for their family and friends to say about them at their funeral. However, my guess is that there are a lot more ragamuffins like Robin who, like the ultra-obese Bonnie in What’s Eating Gilbert Grape?, tell us that they never intended to end up like this.

I can vouch for falling into the latter category, although I won’t roll over in my grave if you say something nice about me before putting me into it.

Life comes with “issues.” And it comes with the heartbreak hills that Robin must have pedaled up as bicycle enthusiast in Marin County where they are so steep and regular that I once burned out some car brakes traveling them. Somehow, he hit one of those hills he couldn’t get a laugh out of.

My one question is: “What’s next?” This is not said in bad taste and I’m not tongue-in-cheeking an encore from the poor soul. I mean it. There is so much speculation as to what happened and very little musing about what happens next. Without an ounce of judgement, I believe it’s really important to face that question before we face our Maker. You may not believe in God, but, as they say, He believes in you. Before I get any nasty mail, I want to reiterate: I am not judging the man. It’s not my right. But it is my duty to get us thinking about “What’s next?”

The best portrayal of coming to the end of ourselves is Jimmy Stewart in his role as George Bailey in It’s A Wonderful Life. Clutching his life insurance policy, he is convinced that the “What’s Next?” isn’t as important as the cash from the insurance company. Most of us can relate to the feeling that it just can’t get any worse. In the same breadth, we are convinced it will never get any better. That’s a contradiction of sorts as life doesn’t stagnate. That’s why it’s said that we “hit” bottom, not linger there.

If you’re stuck near that bottom, it’s OK to let yourself hit. You will bounce back up as it will cause you to look up as it says in The Good Book: “In my desperation I prayed, and the Lord listened; he saved me from all my troubles. For the angel of the Lord is a guard; he surrounds and defends all who fear him…The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time.” Psalm 34:6,7,17-19

I can only hope, that as an actor, he memorized those lines.

Because if he didn’t, it’s not funny.





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